mindfulness & empowerment
support for women
meet your guide
I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and I have discovered my purpose in helping women like myself rebuild their lives after such experiences. Whether you are emerging from an abusive relationship—be it emotional, mental, or physical—or are seeking a way out, I am here to support you on your journey!
Your safe place to share your experience and reconnect with your true self.
What is Mindfulness?
"Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment."
-Buddha
Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present in each moment. It is the ability to be completely aware of where we are and what we're doing and to control our reactions to what is going on around us.
What are the benefits of Mindfulness?
Mindfulness has many benefits. Most people (up to 92% in some research) report reduced stress and more engagement at work. Mindfulness has been shown to enhance performance, increase awareness and heightened attention toward others' well-being.
Common Misconceptions about Mindfulness
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I don't know how. Mindfulness and meditation is not something you can do incorrectly. It is as simple as paying attention to your breath moving in and out of your body. There is no right or wrong way to do it, just relax! You can't mess it up!
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I can't clear my mind. It's impossible to completely stop thinking. Even the most advanced practitioners of meditation can only reduce their thoughts. Yes, the purpose of meditating is to quiet the mind so you have better control over it, but thinking during meditation is completely normal. When your mind wanders, simply redirect it back to your practice. Overtime your mind will begin to do this on its own, which is why we refer to it as a practice.
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I have to sit in a weird position. This is a stereotyped image. Some people do practice meditation in a folded leg position, however, most people simply sit in a chair, lay down, stand or even walk while meditating. You do want to focus on having good posture, but you should always be comfortable.
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It's religious, spiritual or "woo-woo." Meditation is often associated with Buddhism, Hinduism, hippie or new-age spirituality, but nearly all cultures and religions across the world practice some kind of meditation although they may call it by different names. In fact, in the Christian religion prayer is used as a form of meditation. Meditation has become more mainstream due to the amount of studies proving its effectiveness at reducing stress and anxiety, plus boosting productivity and happiness.
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I don't want to chant or talk to myself aloud. Yes, some practitioners of meditation do use vocalizations in their practices, but it's not necessary to do so.
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People who meditate are always peaceful. Statistically, individuals who meditate are more likely to feel content, peaceful, happy and focused. This doesn't mean that these same individuals don't still experience stress, anger or occasionally go 'squirrel.'
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I'm Type-A and can't relax enough to meditate. Not true! People who identify as Type-A or are high strung, anxious or have ADHD can benefit immensely from meditation (trust me, I have ADHD). You cannot meditate wrong. Some people who practice meditation can increase their level of relaxation as they develop their skill, however, some use the practice to simply reduce racing thoughts and calm their mind.
"Open the window of your mind. Allow the fresh air, new lights and new truths to enter."
-Amit Ray
Why do you need
a guide?
If you have been in a relationship with an abusive partner, you deserve an amazing support system. The narcissist has perfected their act of gaslighting, guilt tripping and mentally manipulating you often leaving you feeling like you lost yourself and your support system in the process. Victims of narcissistic abuse often suffer from conditions like anxiety, depression, PTSD, low self-worth or feelings of unworthiness, trouble sleeping, lack of emotions, trust issues and so much more.
The good news is that you don't have to suffer! I'm living, breathing proof that you can redesign your entire reality just by shifting your mindset. However, it's not always clear how we are supposed to do that or even how to begin. That's where your guide comes in. I'm here to give you information and insight into yourself and help you understand why some people behave in certain ways. I'm here to lift you up while showing you your true self, the one you lost along the way.
Narcissistic abuse can shatter a person's self-confidence, distort their reality and undermine their other relationships. Recovery means rebuilding your self-worth and reclaiming trust in your own voice.
-Elle Markman, PSYD